I did not know Anerlisa Muigai was a multi-millionaire. I was only attracted to her beauty-Musician Ben Pol
By Shifa Mwihaki
The marriage didn’t last a year. And when the divorce between Keroche heiress Anerlisa Muigai and Tanzanian hubby Ben Pol, a musician finally came, it was a “slow and painful affair” as he put it.
Anerlisa has since removed the wedding ring and deleted ‘Wife of Ben Pol’ from her social media pages. She has also unfollowed Ben Pol.
Dude, experts always advise: never marry a woman of a higher social class, one from a family more loaded than yours, one whose bank account reads like an international telephone number-while your bank balance appears like a pass code.
Ben Pol regretted ignoring all the red flags before he wed Anerlisa
Ben Pol (Bernard Paul Mnyang’anga) regretted ignoring all the red flags before he wed Anerlisa in a small private ceremony in Tanzania last March. “I filed for divorce” he told Simulizi na Sauti of what happened early this year, and that “the process is going on.”
Surveyed closely, Ben Pol married beyond his social class. The two met in Nairobi in 2018 and the Moyo Mashine hit maker told Cloud FM: “I did not know who she was; I did not know whether she was a multi-millionaire. I was only attracted to her because she was beautiful.”
But in several messages posted on her Instagram account when they were going through hell, Anerlisa wrote: “A man is supposed to provide and (protect) Not (Beg) and collect.”
Parting ways came in small bitter doses, like quinine
Ben Pol recalled that parting ways came in small bitter doses, like quinine: “We separated last year for like one and a half months, then in September, we got back together and in February this year, we separated again,” he recalled adding “I think I did my best from my end to keep our love, but I can’t change anything.”
At one point, Anerlisa’s lawyers served Ben Pol papers barring him from discussing their marriage in media interviews or online. And Ben Pol was mentally devastated when it all ended.
There are other examples of men who married above their class. And it all ended in premium tears. Take gospel musician Daddy Owen (Owen Mwatia).
When all is said and done, Daddy Owen had married up, Wambui had down-married!
His marriage to Farida Wambui crumbled four years after their highly publicized nuptials-which Wambui’s parents skipped besides turning down ruracio from Daddy Owen’s family. When all is said and done, Daddy Owen had married up, Wambui had down-married!
Another specimen in this lot is guitarist Gido Kibukosya. He married Zanaziki band owner, Suzanne Kibukosya, a scion of the Gachukia’s who own the Riara Group of schools empire including Riara University. The parents, Ambassador Daniel Gachukia and educationist Dr Eddah Gachukia, were against the marriage.
it’s better to marry from your own class to avoid incompatibility and culture shock
Never mind Gido’s Old Guy, Peter Kibukosya has a primary school named after him for his contribution to music besides being among those who composed Kenya’s national anthem.
After nearly two decades, the Kibukosya’s called it quits with Gido leaving with nothing but speaker connector cables. Suzanne had a fling with then famous television anchor Louis Otieno before marrying Robert Opembe, Kenya’s ambassador to Ireland- where Suzanne now lives.
Gido repaired back to his shags in rural Kakamega. Surveyed closely, Suzanne was from a wealthier family and Gido had married up!
Traditionally, women are wired to nurture their men but not in a financial sense
Women are more willing to learn and settle and are thus hardly affected by differing social classes compared to men who have bigger egos to deal with.
Grace Kariuki, a family therapist says that “traditionally, women are wired to nurture their men but not in a financial sense. Women find it difficult respecting the man when he’s unable to take care of her” and that most women feel men who don’t provide also fail to offer leadership hence rendering them irrelevant in the home.