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Benjamin Ayimba: One husband, one roof, four breathing wives!

Nicknamed ‘Father Abraham’, rugby legend was blessed with a ‘promiscuous gene variant’

Domestic Scrum: Rugby legend Benjamin Ayimba. He met his third wife from a through pass by Godwin Aswani, the cousin to his second wife, Caroline Waswa. They fell in love, got married but Frabrica was kinda shocked when Ayimba took her to his house in South C  where Caroline was also living. A fourth wife under the same roof only made matters worse. Sociologist, the late Ken Ouko explained that men who can’t help bagging a string of women have a ‘promiscuous gene variant.’

By Undercover Reporter

He lived under one roof with his four breathing wives. That is quite a domestic tackle, but Kenya’s best rugby tackler-the late Benjamin Ayimba-was up to the scrum.

The ragger legend, nicknamed ‘Father Abraham’ succumbed to cerebral malaria at the Kenyatta National Hospital on Friday, May 21. Ayimba, one of 10 children from two different women, was 45.

Most men from polygamous families tend to take the monogamy route; one wife, two kids and a Chihuahua. Not so for Ayimba. Never mind living with four women-who never grew up together-and there was no reason they should have grown up together, had its fair share of box kicks, crash tackles, blind sides, knock-ons and conversions.

Third wife didn’t fancy the communal living and dragged Ayimba to court

Turnover: Ayimba had bought Frabrica Awuor, his third wife, a Mercedes S200 but she was pissed off when he married a fourth wife, one-time Tahidi High actress, Gloria Moraa (above), and brought her to the same house and sired two kids. Gloria was later to sue for child support as well. Ayimba succumbed to cerebral malaria of which there are over six million new cases in Kenya resulting in 4000 deaths according to the Centre for Disease Control.

Then there were the dramas of an arrangement comprising one hubby, one roof and four breathing wives. The third wife, Frabrica Awuor didn’t fancy the communal living and dragged Ayimba to court as Kenyans celebrated the Christmas of 2019.  
Frabrica first met Ayimba in 2009, the year Kenya dramatically reached the World Series semi-finals of the Adelaide Sevens in Australia.

Ayimba met Frabrica from a through pass by Godwin Aswani, the cousin to Ayimba’s second wife, Caroline Waswa. They fell in love, got married but Frabrica was kinda shocked when Ayimba took her to his house in South C  where Caroline was also living.

Second and third wives took care of each other’s children, besides comfortably sharing their famous husband

Spear tackle: For ages rugby was a sport for the elites, not Eastlando, ghetto types. But Ayimba from Kibra slums in Nairobi went all the way to have his name writ large. In fact, having realized he was too big, heavy and clumsy for soccer, attributes that worked magic with rugby-that sport of brute body charges, 100 kilogram collisions at 100 km/h, hand-offs and puffy, hippo sprints at the flanks.

According to court documents, both even took care of each other’s children, besides comfortably sharing their famous husband who was in December 2010 decorated by President Mwai Kibaki with the Order of the Grand Warrior (OGW) award.

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After 10 years of ‘African socialism’ she had had enough. A fourth woman brought tension. She couldn’t share a house with Moraa and thus moved houses from South C to Donholm and on to Sunset Boulevard estate, Athi River.

Ayimba, a devout Catholic, third wife told the court, had abandoned leading to eviction and auctions

Group of death: Ayimba’s crowning moment of glory was coaching the Shujaas to winning the Singapore Sevens leg in 2016 (above). Sweet victory considering Kenya walloped rugby power house Fiji 30-7…the same Fiji which had trashed Kenya 70-0 a decade earlier!
The victory was one in a string of many previous others as a player (including a pro stint with Cornish Pirates of England), captain and coach: Two Kenya Cup league wins, Enterprise Cup doubles, three National Sevens circuit titles, three Commonwealth Games, two Rugby World Cups and the Rio Olympics besides being the youngest coach in the IRB circuit at 30.  

Frabrica thus went to court praying that the man who began playing rugby at Form Three in Maseno School in 1993 be compelled to provide for her, and their two children.

After all, Ayimba, a devout Catholic, had abandoned her in 2018 and she was demanding Sh150, 000 as one-month rent (Sh50,000) and two-month deposit (Sh100,000) as they had been evicted from Sunset Boulevard, household goods auctioned.

She paraded Ayimba’s six vehicles as evidence of forays in gaming and printing businesses

Counter rucking: President Uhuru Kenyatta, a former rugby player at St Mary’s School, Nairobi after Shujaa bagged the Singapore Sevens in 2016. Ayimba had many unforgettable moments but few stood out as the game against Australia that drizzling evening during the 2003 Hong Kong World Series. The hooter had gone. Both teams had tied 12 all. But the Ausi conceded a penalty. Captain Ayimba knew only one player could convert it out of 40 million Kenyans-Oscar Osir. Minnows Kenya won at the death, the first in a series of thrashing the big boys including the All Blacks on home soil in Wellington-also at the death-in 2013!

Ayimba told the court that his life had gone south financially. At the time of the court case, he said he only earned Sh40, 000 as assistant coach at Kenya Harlequins and Frabrica’s demands were thus beyond his pay grade. Could she sell the Mercedes to make ends meet? Awuor paraded Ayimba’s six vehicles, evidence of forays in gaming and printing businesses as proof he could foot her demands.

There is no one in a polygamous marriage who can claim to be happy

Dummy pass: Psychologist Faith Atsango argued that agreeing to be a third or fourth wife means scarcity of resources and men of means will always acquire more women as they do property. But for Bishop Thomas Wahome-who was often beaten by his one wife-polygamy is nothing more than ‘controlled cheating’ and “there is no one in a polygamous marriage who can claim to be happy.”

Ayimba’s kind of polygamy in 21st century Kenya got sociologists, family therapists and counselors giving their two cents. Most argued that a woman allows a dude to marry another woman if they have invested too much in finances, love, children, social status.  

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With four wives, it appears Ayimba was blessed with the DRD4 Gene variant which the late sociologist Ken Ouko said was responsible for “uncommitted sex and promiscuity.”

Benjamin Ayimba Otieno, father of seven, rest in power, bro!

2 Replies to “Benjamin Ayimba: One husband, one roof, four breathing wives!

  1. Wake up call for all of us Men…….Lets learn something from the above story if its true.

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