Maasai men have the least suicide rates over love affairs. The same cannot be said of Kisii men
By Mbatia wa Njambi
Just imagine Maasai men are the most immune to stress triggered by women in Kenya. They also have the least suicide rates over love affairs. The same cannot be said of Kisii men if their suicide numbers over relationships are anything to go by. The neck of Maasai dudes are hardly found dangling from trees over love. One reason is their practice of active polygamy and not being answerable to women according to analysis by clinical psychologists at the Mathari National Psychiatric Hospital. Maasai men also have minimal domestic duties-including how their kids are fed or clothed. Even erecting the family manyatta is a woman’s work.
A case in point is Samburu Senator Dr Steve Lelegwe who married a fetching second wife- on November 21-the same date he divorced his first wife last year!
In his divorce papers, Senator did not mention his wife caused him stress or sleepless nights
In his divorce papers, Senator Lelegwe did not mention that his wife, Beatrice Maseina caused him stress or sleepless nights which made him underperform his duties when he was Samburu County Speaker-even after she left him six times. “At one time before I became Senator, she used to leave for up to five months. I once told her she would find another woman who is ready to love me.”
Lelegwe married Irene Nakae as his fetching second wife- on November 21-the same date he divorced his first wife last year!
The power of marital stress on men has been used by governments, the military and intelligence officers to win wars, elections
Indeed, for the rest of us, few situations besides running away from creditors, invisible enemies and battling imminent diarrhea, can stress a man with parental hair on his chest more than domestic squabbles, a quarrelsome wife, looming divorce.
The power of this effect has been used by governments, the military and intelligence officers to win wars, elections, sports bets, tournaments. It has slowed down planned demos, lured political defectors. Here goes…
Raphael Tuju: Wife had an open adulterous affair with GSU guard
Raphael Tuju is chair of Jubilee Party and CS without portfolio. He was running for the Presidency in 2013 and had shot You Tube videos to announce his bid in February 2012. But alas! presidential campaigns stopped even before they started. Besides accusation of violence, Akinyi was also having an open adulterous affair with Tony Ogunda, their GSU guard at their Sh20 million Karen home where it sat on 10 acres. In his petition, Tuju offered Sh200, 000 as monthly maintenance allowance to Akinyi besides paying Sh180, 000 bank car loan balance and her medical bills. But he won’t give her more than that as she would use it “to maintain her jobless young man.” Ogunda was later found murdered that July.
Mwai Kibaki: ‘I know and you know, I have only one wife, Lucy!’
Lucy was known to issue men with hot military slaps. Like Francis Musyimi, the MC who called her ‘First Lady Lucy Wambui
during a State House function in 2008. After the slap, Musyimi was whisked away and replaced as diplomats and a squirming President who had just won an acrimonious Second Term, watched.
Then there was politician Gitobu Imnyara who went to State House in the run up to the race for House Speaker in 2008. He recalled finding Lucy “in pyjamas and bare feet. He started throwing punches at me shouting “nobody comes here without my permission.”
Lucy Kibaki shut down State House Bar…portraying Kibaki as ‘a weak sat on man’
He threatened to sue for assault besides demanding a goat for Njuri Ncheke to drop the charges. Kibaki called and calmed down the matter. Lucy Kibaki was Chief Prefect, overseeing Ministers, top officials and even State House staff- way beyond her mandate. She shut down State House Bar! Being called Second Lady by Vice President Moody Awori saw the end of New Year State Balls! But while portraying Kibaki as “a weak sat on man” she protected him from advantage takers and political enemies-especially after suffering a nasty road accident which dogged his presidency.
Moses Wetangula: Second wife, Anne Waceke, clobbered him to shame
Bungoma Senator Moses Wetangula has had long running domestic battles pegged on violence and infidelity. In March 2016, he recorded police statements after his second wife, Anne Waceke, clobbered him after he enquired about an adulterous affair with Congolese music producer named Saint Patrick Ponce Mahele. The two had met at a party two years earlier. But Waceke lost tens of millions in a Nigerian business venture with Saint Patrick. Suspecting that Saint Patrick was bedding an employee, Waceke demanded her money-which had by then gone up in smoke. He then fled to Tanzania and DRC-his homeground. But Waceke, akicheza kama yeye, hired a female detective who lured Saint Patrick back to Kenya where he found himself cooling porridge at the Industrial Area Remand Prison in Nairobi over “obtaining money through false pretenses.”
Francis Onyiso: Apologized to wife in newspaper advert
The former Harambee Stars goalkeeper said there came a time in life when everything stops to matter and in pursuit of peace in marriage, he placed a newspaper advert apologizing to his wife.
Martin Luther King Jr: Sextapes of extramarital affairs sent to wife
The American civil rights leader was heading the demonstrations in Selma, Alabama during the Presidency of Lyndon B Johnson in 1965. King was agitating for the rights of African-Americans to vote. But the non-violent marches resulted in police brutality and death soiling Johnson’s image. Johnson summoned FBI Director J Edgar Hoover for help on stopping them. Hoover, a closet gay, told Johnson that the best way of messing with a man’s head is ruining domestic peace at home. He can’t concentrate.
The Israeli-Egypt Six Day War: Which officers had a weakness for sluts, strip clubs, brothels and small boys?
Egypt had the biggest army during Israel’s Six Day War in 1967. It boasted the best fighter pilots and over 100, 000 soldiers. Israel had under 3,000. But that didn’t help Egypt when Israel unleashed domestic stress on its fighter pilots a month to the War!
But alas! Mossad, the Israeli Intelligence agency knew there was no better way of ruining a man’s concentration than a hostile domestic atmosphere.
English military historian Gordon Thomas in, Gideon’s Spies, informs us that the Mossad got work schedules of Egyptian generals. Most lived outside Cairo and reported to work at 9am: took tea, read newspapers. That was crucial information to winning the Six Day War.
But of more importance were the private lives of key officers in the air force: Who among the key planners, pilots, technicians and ground crew had mistresses? Also sought were their drinking habits, lifestyle and sexual pleasures: Which officers had a weakness for sluts, strip clubs, brothels and small boys? This information was secretly radioed to the Department of Psychological Warfare in Tel Aviv.
Shortly, the wives of Egyptian pilots began receiving letters detailing their hubby’s private life. Those who loved sluts were secretly photographed and evidence sent to their wives. The same happened to combat pilots who frequented brothels and strip clubs. One who was exposed to a teacher as gay and the reason his son was performing poorly, shot himself. Spousal animosity saw many pilots and crew reporting late to work. Others were admitted for stress. Divorce cases followed swiftly forcing many fighter pilots to apply for leave- when they should have been practicing air maneuvers!